I was recently asked why the lack of activity in this blog during the month of November. First, I was very grateful that someone commented on this – thank you! I will share with you the reason, because within it I think we can find something useful. My mother passed away after several years’ bout […]
The Milton Model is in many ways the inverse of the Meta Model. As we covered in that lesson, through three processes, Deletion, Distortion and Generalization, we can speak and be artfully vague. That is, we can speak in a manner that’s vague enough that the listener can “fill in the blanks” with their own […]
The underlying principle here is that through three processes we will explain shortly, Deletion, Distortion and Generalization, people can create global attitudes and experiences that ignore or modify their perception of the otherwise rich experience surrounding them. By instead focusing on an impoverished experience with limited possibilities and pain, they can become very successful at […]
In 1998, I was asked by my local Chamber of Commerce to explain how an NLP technique could make a difference in everyday life. There were a lot of Tony Robbins fans in attendance, so they were all familiar with the concept of Anchoring—he taught it to them in one of his tape courses. I […]
I was in an airport, recently, waiting for my plane to land before it transformed in an instant from 2631 from Detroit to Dallas, into flight 3144 from Dallas to Birmingham. Had I blinked for too long? How did this happen? And what must that experience have been like for those on the flight? Were […]
In a prior post, I challenged the sacred adage, “it is what it is”, a comforting and familiar expression that reassures us that reality is solid and immutable… Just as it implies that we cannot change things all that much, and it’s best to just accept our lot. Well I’m not done picking on that […]
Portions of this article are excerpted from a workshop held in April, 2008 entitled, “Influence Your World.” Related to VAK, which we covered previously, we dive into one of the cooler, covert, yet stunningly simple-to-learn skills in the NLP toolkit: Eye Accessing Cues. The thing that makes these so remarkable is that by watching someone’s […]
Part of this article is excerpted from the notes of a workshop conducted in Feb, 2008. “VAK” refers to the three primary senses or “modalities” through which we perceive our world. We tend to encode those observations with the same sense that collected the information. Meaning, if we saw something, we tend to remember it […]
This was taken from an evening workshop in 2007 called, “Choices: What do do When Your Mind Wants to Ask Directions.” States of mind, physiology, of emotion, all of which influence one another, refer to how we “are”, how we “feel”, in a given moment. We often speak of a “resourceful state” or a “less-resourceful […]
Among the most widely recognized (and utilized) NLP techniques is Outcome Specification. Getting clear regarding our goals is one of those things we talk about a lot because the unconscious mind is a very sensitive instrument. Sending it a message that is in even the slightest way mixed can easily sidetrack our stated efforts. Worse, […]