The Value of Radical Understanding: Reading Others! Part 4

Now let’s build upon what we’ve learned about Radical Understanding. We’ve spoken about reading invisible channels, setting aside our perceptual filters to get real information, paying close attention, and even to eliciting the other person’s strategies and identifying the relevant parts of the other person’s Map of the World. Remember what we said about Map […]

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The Value of Radical Understanding: Reading Others! Part 3

We’ve now spoken in prior articles about the difference between observation and interpretation, as well as invisible channels of communication. We’ve further explored how learning to pay attention to everything, setting aside any filters which limit us, affording us full access to our perception. This can appear to others to be a form of “extrasensory” […]

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The Value of Radical Understanding: Reading Others! Part 2

We’ve now spoken about the difference between observation and interpretation. Because this is an important distinction as we learn to better read others, we’re going to explore it a bit further. We want to develop the habit of noticing what’s before us without applying significance or meaning to it. Any interpretation of what we’ve observed […]

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The Value of Radical Understanding: Reading Others! Part 1

Previously, we spoke about the very important skill of Calibration. The ability to detect the differences in people–observable shifts in their outward behaviors–is critical to Persuasion. As part of Radical Understanding, however, this takes on an even deeper meaning. Learning to calibrate changes in others as well as ourselves, as we strive to understand other […]

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Structure

One of your greatest superpowers is your ability to identify the underlying structure in any situation. We experience many situations that, while the details vary, the overall theme and structure is the same. Maybe the challenge of helping your child ace “core” math (aka “the new math,” the one we didn’t learn in school) is […]

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Calibration – it isn’t just for reading Others!

Calibration in Human Behavior is one of those not-so-secret, though often-overlooked skills. Simply, calibration is noticing the differences in people, between moments–observable shifts in their objectively noticeable, outward behaviors. That includes changes in skin tone or coloration, posture, movement, though it can also be more subtle. I’ve shared a story before about noticing pupil dilation […]

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