What follows is an excerpt from How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown, which comes out tomorrow. I’ve gotten feedback showing that in addition to offering a life-changing strategy for those of us enjoying an intimate relationship (as well as for those wanting one!) I should place a “Quick Start” feature at the front, […]
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In my upcoming book, “How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown”, I talk about beliefs as they are a cornerstone of our worldview. Which directly translates to our behavioral choices. In NLP parlance, that “worldview” is our “Map of the World”, the complete set of filters, biases, beliefs, that shape our perception of reality, […]
As Covid-19, despite the amusing conspiracy theorists’ wishes, proved to actually be a “thing”, it almost immediately shifted the work landscape for millions of people. That is, for those who didn’t get laid off or furloughed, and my heart goes out to them. Or US because it eventually included me as well! But one of […]
Those of us who work with influence, particularly the unconscious variety, know that we are all being influenced all the time – often without our explicit agreement. Advertisements don’t just clearly spell out their message, such as, “Buy our product!!!!” Rather, they show us someone having a problem with which we can identify, reacting to […]
We can say what we like about this present pandemic situation, and yes, most of it is pretty freaking awful. Though, bear with me a moment. Consider all the things you said you would do when you “got around to it.” Specifically, when you had a little more free time on your hands. You’d learn […]
I’ve worked extensively on what I called The Strategies of Intimacy, a project that modeled successful relationships to determine what makes them work when they do, and what makes them fail when they don’t. In the course of that research, I often would politely interrupt a couple who seemed to be getting along well and […]
Nearly all the articles on this site are self-contained and can be taken individually. However this time of pandemic, of Coronavirus and Covid-19, have shaped our world very dramatically. We have seen a whole new set of challenges (and possible opportunities) present themselves, and this article serves as a segue into possible solutions. This arose […]
Intimate relationships can be very difficult to maintain. We Americans know this, as we boast nearly a 50% divorce rate. I’m not above it, as I myself have been divorced. If I can be forgiven a moment of faulty logic, this means that my second marriage will be successful – my first marriage would represent […]
Picture yourself looking out at a familiar site, something you can easily imagine. This is something you can recall in your mind’s eye and see with great detail. Get a good look at it in your imagination, see the colors, the landscape, the angles, shapes… Get a clear image of it. Next, imagine that you […]
I previously explored the concept of Assuming Intention, a technique that more often than not does not turn out to be accurate. It’s difficult to know someone so precisely that we know without fail what they are thinking, and what their actions meant. This is a form of what Milton H. Erickson called “mind reading”, and generally […]