Calibration in Human Behavior is one of those not-so-secret, though often-overlooked skills. Simply, calibration is noticing the differences in people, between moments–observable shifts in their objectively noticeable, outward behaviors. That includes changes in skin tone or coloration, posture, movement, though it can also be more subtle. I’ve shared a story before about noticing pupil dilation […]
One of the things that came up in my first Sublinfluence™ workshop, a few years back, was surprise that it’s even necessary in most cases. For those who’ve never attended one, I teach a two-step process for persuasion. The first aspect, often overlooked in most situations where people attempt Influence, is what I call “Radical […]
Curiosity does more than lead to massive innovations in our quest for prosperity, even survival. It tunes our senses to gather the information we need. In the question of Influence, for example, we presuppose that the other party doesn’t yet agree with us. And maybe that’s true. So how do we respond? Some people become […]
In a hypnosis workshop on South Padre Island in 2007, I taught the concept of nominalizations. This is a part of NLP’s Milton Model, one of the key models in Neuro-linguistic Programming. A nominalization, simply, is a noun that used to be a verb. Think about that for a moment. A word like “security” comes […]
There is an old strategy that’s persisted for an obvious reason – it works. You’ve heard it before, so I’m only going to review as I’ve also noticed a perversion of the same. The strategy is that you begin anything with the outcome in mind–its having been successful. If you have to complete a big […]
The year is 2021. Bear with me, hear, as there’s something to say. Thanks to a type of Coronavirus, our entire world has changed since our “ignorance-is-bliss” (aka “It-could-never-happen-here”) time until it hit us. Many of us worked in offices others behind counters, some among the general public (LEOs, EMTs, truck drivers, et al), while […]
What if there was a way to know what is going on around you–with your partner, your family, your boss, coworkers, customers…? What if you could learn all their secrets, or if that isn’t as appealing, what if you could learn what they really want so you could be sure to meet their expectations? Because […]
Humans are a good many things by nature, and a good many more not so. For example, most of us would agree that “survival of the fittest” seems to hold true. Even those among us who don’t believe in Evolution per se likely agree that the creature best adapted to survival in an environment is more apt […]
As Covid-19, despite the amusing conspiracy theorists’ wishes, proved to actually be a “thing”, it almost immediately shifted the work landscape for millions of people. That is, for those who didn’t get laid off or furloughed, and my heart goes out to them. Or US because it eventually included me as well! But one of […]
We can say what we like about this present pandemic situation, and yes, most of it is pretty freaking awful. Though, bear with me a moment. Consider all the things you said you would do when you “got around to it.” Specifically, when you had a little more free time on your hands. You’d learn […]