In my previous article, I mentioned that there are three big reasons why resolutions fail, why we make goals, create daily steps to follow, and at times, don’t do it. Some have called this “Knowing what to do, but not doing what we know.” I mentioned in that article that Ecology is a big reason […]
I was a guest trainer at an NLP Practitioner class recently, and the subject of long-term commitment arose. The context, here, is relevant, but the mechanics are the same. Recall our discussion of Structural Thinking recently–it really is a superpower. As we approach a new year in a couple months, one of the things we […]
One of your greatest superpowers is your ability to identify the underlying structure in any situation. We experience many situations that, while the details vary, the overall theme and structure is the same. Maybe the challenge of helping your child ace “core” math (aka “the new math,” the one we didn’t learn in school) is […]
Curiosity does more than lead to massive innovations in our quest for prosperity, even survival. It tunes our senses to gather the information we need. In the question of Influence, for example, we presuppose that the other party doesn’t yet agree with us. And maybe that’s true. So how do we respond? Some people become […]
This past two months, I’ve spoken about a coworker who greatly exaggerated his own abilities. Quick recap: He promised all kinds of great rewards and, even early on, before anyone knew of his capability (or lack thereof), we could all smell the distinct odor of, as mentioned, bullshit. He agreed to something, a bit of […]
Last month, I spoke about a coworker who greatly exaggerated his own abilities. He promised all kinds of great rewards and, even early on, before anyone knew of his capability (or lack thereof), we could all smell the distinct odor of, as mentioned, bullshit. He agreed to something, a bit of a test, that would, […]
When mastering unconscious influence, that is, conscious influence over others’ unconscious minds, it should be apparent that the opportunity for unethical use is always present. This is a big reason some people object to my teaching and writing about it. As if, but for me, no one would ever figure this stuff out! As much […]
I’ve always been fascinated by Influence, how leaders or influencers get us to take an action they prefer. Which means I’ve sat through more “get-rich-quick” pitches than you likely would. It was interesting, and I’ve learned a lot. Naturally, many of these pitches simply lie to make us believe something will work for us. Some, […]
In a hypnosis workshop on South Padre Island in 2007, I taught the concept of nominalizations. This is a part of NLP’s Milton Model, one of the key models in Neuro-linguistic Programming. A nominalization, simply, is a noun that used to be a verb. Think about that for a moment. A word like “security” comes […]
There is an old strategy that’s persisted for an obvious reason – it works. You’ve heard it before, so I’m only going to review as I’ve also noticed a perversion of the same. The strategy is that you begin anything with the outcome in mind–its having been successful. If you have to complete a big […]