This article details a lesson from a Practitioner Certification Class in 2001 At times, shifting the subject’s perception of the present time can be useful in influencing him or her to change now. Though in this moment, this very present moment, no one would think to question exactly “What is ‘now’?” This fact can become […]
The decision to publish “How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown” this past year had everything to do with the unusually challenging events of the Covid-19 pandemic. Though I was very proud of the research and analysis, and found the discussions with many of the subjects (many simply filled out the form and requested […]
What if there was a way to know what is going on around you–with your partner, your family, your boss, coworkers, customers…? What if you could learn all their secrets, or if that isn’t as appealing, what if you could learn what they really want so you could be sure to meet their expectations? Because […]
Humans are a good many things by nature, and a good many more not so. For example, most of us would agree that “survival of the fittest” seems to hold true. Even those among us who don’t believe in Evolution per se likely agree that the creature best adapted to survival in an environment is more apt […]
What follows is an excerpt from How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown, which comes out tomorrow. I’ve gotten feedback showing that in addition to offering a life-changing strategy for those of us enjoying an intimate relationship (as well as for those wanting one!) I should place a “Quick Start” feature at the front, […]
In my upcoming book, “How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown”, I talk about beliefs as they are a cornerstone of our worldview. Which directly translates to our behavioral choices. In NLP parlance, that “worldview” is our “Map of the World”, the complete set of filters, biases, beliefs, that shape our perception of reality, […]
As Covid-19, despite the amusing conspiracy theorists’ wishes, proved to actually be a “thing”, it almost immediately shifted the work landscape for millions of people. That is, for those who didn’t get laid off or furloughed, and my heart goes out to them. Or US because it eventually included me as well! But one of […]
Those of us who work with influence, particularly the unconscious variety, know that we are all being influenced all the time – often without our explicit agreement. Advertisements don’t just clearly spell out their message, such as, “Buy our product!!!!” Rather, they show us someone having a problem with which we can identify, reacting to […]
We can say what we like about this present pandemic situation, and yes, most of it is pretty freaking awful. Though, bear with me a moment. Consider all the things you said you would do when you “got around to it.” Specifically, when you had a little more free time on your hands. You’d learn […]
I’ve worked extensively on what I called The Strategies of Intimacy, a project that modeled successful relationships to determine what makes them work when they do, and what makes them fail when they don’t. In the course of that research, I often would politely interrupt a couple who seemed to be getting along well and […]