I was quite surprised by the intensity of the reader responses to a previous article (Ending Friendships Over Politics…). Likely due to the outcome of the United States election earlier that month, there was more fervor than I’d expected. For one, I’m unaccustomed to being called, in the same month, a “left-wing lunatic,” “right-wing extremist,” […]
NLP uses a mechanical-sounding term for the process of noting differences. An oversimplification, sure. but these are differences most people overlook. Or even if they catch shifts in others or themselves, they likely miss the significance. This is why I count this skill as reading “invisible channels of communication.” Calibration is one of the most […]
Because I value a wide array of perspectives, I not only don’t shy away from people who think very differently from me, I have pursued it. Worse…I conduct social experiments frequently. This means that, while in most cases I’d be called a Centrist, I’d maintained connections with some varied folks. I can say with confidence […]
“You’re Gaslighting me!” Gaslighting is a term that has gained significant traction in recent years, often discussed in the context of toxic relationships and psychological manipulation. As with any term that takes the zeitgeist by storm, the term is often overused or misused. Though it’s very real, and as dangerous as it is insidious. Understanding […]
Top performers in business, sports, and any other challenging endeavor speak often of “trusting my gut.” Historically, there is another term for this, which is “Intuition,” and when I spoke with a client about this, he winced. “Sounds too much like ‘Women’s Intuition,’ he said. But who would limit themselves by gender when it comes […]
“When you change yourself, you change the world…” Not a new idea, though profound as you consider it fully. I’ve had clients who were so externally-focused and therefore their notion of “power” was making others conform to their will. While such things are clearly possible, it’s not the most effective way to influence others or […]
In any situation where you have more than one person, you’re likely to have more than one agenda. More than one desire, and throughout human history, we’ve come up with different ways of resolving such conflicts. In my book MindLeading™, I mention that this can include Power–whether by force, intimidation, authority, or persuasion. The latter […]
If you have a blade and you store it until you need it, then only take it out when you need it, you will often find it’s lost its edge. Time and elements, even when you’ve been careful to preserve it, have dulled the blade. The same is true for our mental and interpersonal skills. […]
If you’ve ever said something like, “I knew what to do, I just don’t do it,” or “Knowing what to do, I didn’t do what I know,” or even if you simply got so caught up in an argument or feeling attacked, then you can relate to emotional overwhelm. That’s when in the heat of […]
Leadership is not merely a title or position; it’s a journey of growth, empowerment, and service. Whether you’re leading a team in the workplace, guiding a community organization, or inspiring others in your personal life, the qualities of a great leader are universal and timeless. In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies and mindset […]