You deserve to be happy, as does everyone else. Actually, using the word “deserve” illustrates a common misconception, that happiness must be earned before any of us can have it. Though have you ever watched the very young at play? Whether human babies, puppies, kittens, just about any breathing thing is a great example. They […]
Consider the following two sentences: Many of us have experienced the oddity of the emotional affair. We may have even been guilty of indulging in one. I itilicize that word because our choice of predicates radically impacts how we feel about it. Language is powerful. Consider briefly how different you feel as you read the […]
In a prior discussion, we talked about Maps of the World, and you may recall that they are unique to the individual. You have your own such map, as do I, and so does your partner, your kids, and your boss. So to recap for our present discussion, what is a Map of the World in […]
Laughter is the best medicine. That’s absolutely true. And laughter is medicinal in ways other than that which you can presently imagine. Far more. Laughter signals our brains to release chemicals into our bodies that are in themselves medicinal. Flooding our systems with the chemical equivalent of positive, healing energy. The effect of these chemicals on […]
Gestalt Psychology provides us with a means of organizing our experiences into a spatial location. Because NLP likewise takes an interest in where we locate a problem, this post may seem to indicate an overlap between those fields – you’re right, it does. Notice that successful couples manage to filter their partner through a lens […]
I was speaking with a colleague in the IT industry the other day. One of the things that jarred me was his sense of frustration. He said, “I got up in the middle of the night, went into the living room and poured myself a Scotch. I then drank it until it was gone. And […]
I recently was told that since humans aren’t by nature monogamous, any time we try to live that way, we encounter struggle. Humans are a good many things by nature, and a good many more not so. For example, most of us would agree that “survival of the fittest” seems to hold true. Even those among us […]
When you spend a lot of time doing anything–even something others consider intimidating or scary–such as public speaking–it’s easy to overlook the skills you call upon so often. We tend to achieve, via “overlearning” or rehearsal, such a high degree of familiarity and comfort with that skill that we no longer can relate to others […]
Virginia Satir, the brilliant family therapist, who introduced us to Conjoint Family Therapy, contributed on a grand scale to our understanding of relationship and family dynamics. She was brilliant at identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship and educating the members to function more effectively together. Yet one of her more startling contributions was what many […]
Tad James, one of the (and by some accounts, THE) first NLP Master Trainer, once repeated the joke, “What’s a meta for?” Indeed. That linguistic playfulness is a powerful key to influence as hypnosis uses many different pathways, that being one of the easiest to learn. Though to build on James’ question, metaphors can guide […]