In my upcoming book, “How to NOT Kill Each Other During Lockdown”, I talk about beliefs as they are a cornerstone of our worldview. Which directly translates to our behavioral choices. In NLP parlance, that “worldview” is our “Map of the World”, the complete set of filters, biases, beliefs, that shape our perception of reality, […]
Those of us who work with influence, particularly the unconscious variety, know that we are all being influenced all the time – often without our explicit agreement. Advertisements don’t just clearly spell out their message, such as, “Buy our product!!!!” Rather, they show us someone having a problem with which we can identify, reacting to […]
Picture yourself looking out at a familiar site, something you can easily imagine. This is something you can recall in your mind’s eye and see with great detail. Get a good look at it in your imagination, see the colors, the landscape, the angles, shapes… Get a clear image of it. Next, imagine that you […]
Every computer used to have its own character set (most common is UTF-8). Unicode encoding created commonality (shared map) that computers in a particular region could share, simplifying communication. Though the technology metaphor may be apt, stay with me even if it isn’t familiar to you. I’m illustrating the very point I wish to make: […]
You deserve to be happy, as does everyone else. Actually, using the word “deserve” illustrates a common misconception, that happiness must be earned before any of us can have it. Though have you ever watched the very young at play? Whether human babies, puppies, kittens, just about any breathing thing is a great example. They […]
Consider the following two sentences: Many of us have experienced the oddity of the emotional affair. We may have even been guilty of indulging in one. I itilicize that word because our choice of predicates radically impacts how we feel about it. Language is powerful. Consider briefly how different you feel as you read the […]
In a prior discussion, we talked about Maps of the World, and you may recall that they are unique to the individual. You have your own such map, as do I, and so does your partner, your kids, and your boss. So to recap for our present discussion, what is a Map of the World in […]
Laughter is the best medicine. That’s absolutely true. And laughter is medicinal in ways other than that which you can presently imagine. Far more. Laughter signals our brains to release chemicals into our bodies that are in themselves medicinal. Flooding our systems with the chemical equivalent of positive, healing energy. The effect of these chemicals on […]
Gestalt Psychology provides us with a means of organizing our experiences into a spatial location. Because NLP likewise takes an interest in where we locate a problem, this post may seem to indicate an overlap between those fields – you’re right, it does. Notice that successful couples manage to filter their partner through a lens […]
I was speaking with a colleague in the IT industry the other day. One of the things that jarred me was his sense of frustration. He said, “I got up in the middle of the night, went into the living room and poured myself a Scotch. I then drank it until it was gone. And […]