There is an old adage which reads, “He who dares wins”. The simple truth is that when we attempt something, we either get our intended outcome or we don’t. In contemporary vernacular, that is often called “success”, or “failure”, respectively. Much has been written about how failure is really only feedback, so I’ll only review […]
If you already understand modalities and submodalities, then forgive me. In order to offer an amusing example of submodalities used badly, I must make sure that we all agree upon some shared definitions, that we understand these concepts the same way. If you are new to modalities and submodalities, then you are in luck – […]
People often surprise me, and thank goodness they do. Learning never stops, so the surprises are always coming. Yet there are some things that truly baffle me. There was considerable debate in this country when Milton H. Erickson was positing the unconscious mind as a component of the hypnotic experience. Yet before him, Sigmund Freud, […]
The majority of these are oft-repeated NLP Core Presuppositions, though I’ve added a few based on my own research into human behavior and my working with a wide variety of clients to make significant life changes. But what’s meant by “Presuppositions” in this context? In studying top performers, people who were “successful” according to a […]
This article is excerpted from a workshop on 2001 called “Advanced Negotiation for Thinking People.” We naturally experience life via our own perception, vis-à-vis our senses. Like Association-dissociation, this can be both vital to our fulfillment or limiting, depending upon the situation. When associated, experiencing life directly, we naturally experience things in a more direct, […]
One of the great things about kids is the way they (and the way we used to be) is their comfort level with new things. Kids don’t know to be afraid of heights, of public speaking, of being rejected by a potential date, a boss, an HR Director, and so forth. They don’t dread the […]
Among the most challenging things we humans face is the unknown. While at first blush that may sound obvious, consider what it actually means. “The unknown”, as ominous as it may sound, simply refers to that which we don’t know yet. Everything known, when you stop the think about it, was at one point a […]
Association/Dissociation is one of the most powerful and organic distinctions we use in NLP. Closely related to Gestalt concepts, we are referring to more than perspective, though that’s the first thing most people notice. We are speaking about whether, as we either recall or construct an experience in our minds, we are an OBSERVER of […]