Your value is defined in several ways, though in each context, a common element is The Impact You Have. While seemingly obvious, we often overlook it, in place of some arbitrary value we’ve chosen. And while it’s great to be confident and to determine for yourself what you can do, that doesn’t mean others will […]
We all wish we could read minds sometimes. Whether it’s in a negotiation, a team meeting, or a first date, understanding what someone really wants—not just what they say—can be the edge that changes everything. You don’t need telepathy. You need Radical Understanding. I call it this to emphasize it’s an action we take, and […]
(Portions of this article were excerpted from an NLP Practitioner Certification class I held in 2002) We covered in a previous article what a strategy is, and used Decision strategies as not only an example, but a playground. While we use strategies for nearly every significant thing in our lives, motivation strategies have got to […]
There is within you an absolute MONSTER capable of doing anything you want. Since that monster is balanced with the rest of your life (if not, I can help with all that), you may find moments, perhaps a lot of them, whereby this can help you a great deal. Letting that monster announce itself, establishing […]
NLP uses a mechanical-sounding term for the process of noting differences. An oversimplification, sure. but these are differences most people overlook. Or even if they catch shifts in others or themselves, they likely miss the significance. This is why I count this skill as reading “invisible channels of communication.” Calibration is one of the most […]
“You’re Gaslighting me!” Gaslighting is a term that has gained significant traction in recent years, often discussed in the context of toxic relationships and psychological manipulation. As with any term that takes the zeitgeist by storm, the term is often overused or misused. Though it’s very real, and as dangerous as it is insidious. Understanding […]
Top performers in business, sports, and any other challenging endeavor speak often of “trusting my gut.” Historically, there is another term for this, which is “Intuition,” and when I spoke with a client about this, he winced. “Sounds too much like ‘Women’s Intuition,’ he said. But who would limit themselves by gender when it comes […]
“When you change yourself, you change the world…” Not a new idea, though profound as you consider it fully. I’ve had clients who were so externally-focused and therefore their notion of “power” was making others conform to their will. While such things are clearly possible, it’s not the most effective way to influence others or […]
In any situation where you have more than one person, you’re likely to have more than one agenda. More than one desire, and throughout human history, we’ve come up with different ways of resolving such conflicts. In my book MindLeading™, I mention that this can include Power–whether by force, intimidation, authority, or persuasion. The latter […]
If you’ve ever said something like, “I knew what to do, I just don’t do it,” or “Knowing what to do, I didn’t do what I know,” or even if you simply got so caught up in an argument or feeling attacked, then you can relate to emotional overwhelm. That’s when in the heat of […]