Picture yourself looking out at a familiar site, something you can easily imagine. This is something you can recall in your mind’s eye and see with great detail. Get a good look at it in your imagination, see the colors, the landscape, the angles, shapes… Get a clear image of it. Next, imagine that you […]
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I previously explored the concept of Assuming Intention, a technique that more often than not does not turn out to be accurate. It’s difficult to know someone so precisely that we know without fail what they are thinking, and what their actions meant. This is a form of what Milton H. Erickson called “mind reading”, and generally […]
One of the most insidious of creatures haunting the castle that is your relationships is that of Assuming Intention. This is a more specific example of what the great hypnotherapist Milton H. Erickson referred to as “mind reading”. The gist is this, and don’t feel bad as you notice examples of your doing this, perhaps […]
It’s surprising to me that this problem arises so frequently in American business. A company may have an overarching corporate culture, an overall attitude that pervades the business at all levels. Yet within a company there may be several such cultures, divided by role. One of the challenges I’ve seen is where those cultures clash […]
In a world driven by logic, reason, and analysis, the role of intuition is often overlooked or undervalued. Yet, intuition – that inner voice, gut feeling, or instinctive knowing – can be a powerful guide in decision-making, problem-solving, and navigating life’s complexities. In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of tapping into your intuition, […]
Some of us will see that title and think we’re talking about a new agey concept that potentially could threaten existing common beliefs about spirituality, religion, and so forth. Not so much. We’re going to explore something that you need, and you probably already have in some form. Something very practical and we would say […]
I lost both of my parents in the past few years, and between those two experiences, I’ve gained a few surprising, and subtle, aspects of healing under such circumstances. In 2017, my wife and I said goodbye to her father. As my dad has been deceased for over a decade, Pat had become a surrogate […]
At a workshop recently, as usually happens, I was asked a great question – “Is conflict always bad?” First off, no, conflict itself is not bad in and of itself. Disagreement between two parties can elicit potentially useful distinctions and strengths. So if it’s not negative, why do relationship counselors so often struggle with, and […]
Every computer used to have its own character set (most common is UTF-8). Unicode encoding created commonality (shared map) that computers in a particular region could share, simplifying communication. Though the technology metaphor may be apt, stay with me even if it isn’t familiar to you. I’m illustrating the very point I wish to make: […]
A colleague of mine recently forwarded a very thought-provoking article; its stated aim was to increase the intimacy in a relationship. Naturally, I embrace such a goal, though having read it, I remain pretty skeptical as to whether its approach could accomplish anything of the sort. The notion was that a period of abstinence will allow a couple to […]