Virginia Satir, the brilliant family therapist, who introduced us to Conjoint Family Therapy, contributed on a grand scale to our understanding of relationship and family dynamics. She was brilliant at identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship and educating the members to function more effectively together. Yet one of her more startling contributions was what many […]
Early on in my marriage, my wife and I both broke open our fortune cookies, following a very enjoyable Chinese delivery meal. Yes, we had to silence our inner wannabe food connoisseurs, but it was good–and it ended with fortune cookies, which has to count for something, doesn’t it? We had the same fortune… I spoke […]
Values determine what your priority will be in any given situation. Think of it as a checklist of criteria we apply to every situation where we decide it fits. You may have such a list of values that pertain to your work. This list may include: “fair pay”, “reasonable expectations”, “work-life balance”, “opportunity for growth […]
When couples cite reasons for divorce or breakup, there is a surprisingly short list of usual suspects. Money, and financial decisions, though not always the primary reason, is a frequent offender, often identified as the reason for ending a romantic relationship. Heading into tax season, it seemed appropriate that we talk about this common culprit. […]
We’ve already talked about Maps of the World, and the fact that each of us has one. Since we each have a unique take on reality, a unique way of filtering our experiences, how can we form relationship, marriages, companies, partnerships of any kind? We create a new map to correspond to the way we […]