Many of us have experienced an emotional affair. We may have even been guilty of indulging in one. Consider that coworker with whom you often flirt, the barista at the coffee bar with whom you have “a regular thing” when you show up, always at about the same time, to ensure he/she is there, or […]
In a prior discussion, we talked about Maps of the World, and you may recall that they are unique to the individual. You have your own such map, as do I, and so does your partner, your kids, and your boss. So to recap for our present discussion, what is a Map of the World in […]
Laughter is the best medicine. That’s absolutely true. And laughter is medicinal in ways other than that which you can presently imagine. Far more. Laughter signals our brains to release chemicals into our bodies that are in themselves medicinal. Flooding our systems with the chemical equivalent of positive, healing energy. The effect of these chemicals on […]
Gestalt Psychology provides us with a means of organizing our experiences into a spatial location. Because NLP likewise takes an interest in where we locate a problem, this post may seem to indicate an overlap between those fields – you’re right, it does. Notice that successful couples manage to filter their partner through a lens […]
I recently was told that since humans aren’t by nature monogamous, any time we try to live that way, we encounter struggle. Humans are a good many things by nature, and a good many more not so. For example, most of us would agree that “survival of the fittest” seems to hold true. Even those among us […]
Virginia Satir, the brilliant family therapist, who introduced us to Conjoint Family Therapy, contributed on a grand scale to our understanding of relationship and family dynamics. She was brilliant at identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship and educating the members to function more effectively together. Yet one of her more startling contributions was what many […]
Early on in my marriage, my wife and I both broke open our fortune cookies, following a very enjoyable Chinese delivery meal. Yes, we had to silence our inner wannabe food connoisseurs, but it was good–and it ended with fortune cookies, which has to count for something, doesn’t it? We had the same fortune… I spoke […]
Values determine what your priority will be in any given situation. Think of it as a checklist of criteria we apply to every situation where we decide it fits. You may have such a list of values that pertain to your work. This list may include: “fair pay”, “reasonable expectations”, “work-life balance”, “opportunity for growth […]
When couples cite reasons for divorce or breakup, there is a surprisingly short list of usual suspects. Money, and financial decisions, though not always the primary reason, is a frequent offender, often identified as the reason for ending a romantic relationship. Heading into tax season, it seemed appropriate that we talk about this common culprit. […]
We’ve already talked about Maps of the World, and the fact that each of us has one. Since we each have a unique take on reality, a unique way of filtering our experiences, how can we form relationship, marriages, companies, partnerships of any kind? We create a new map to correspond to the way we […]